Create Change’s Mary Cross provides couple and family mediation in all areas of potential conflict. By providing mediation in Portland, Mary assists people who are in conflict to identify the issues to be discussed, clarify common and disparate needs and interests, and to negotiate mutually satisfactory agreements. Participation in family and couples mediation is chosen voluntarily by the parties, who can opt out at any time. Mediation helps parties in conflict learn about and consider the options available to them for the resolution of their dispute. When people work with one another to reach agreements that are mutually acceptable, relationships improve and peacemaking can begin.
Participants in family and couples mediation hold the decision-making authority, including decisions regarding the process as well as the final agreements. Mediation is impartial. Mary does not take sides, make judgments or make decisions for mediation participants. Instead, she provides information and education to help people identify options and make informed, mutually-acceptable decisions for conflict resolution. Mediation communication is protected as confidential under Oregon state law, rather than being part of the public record. Privacy is especially important in family matters.
Mediation helps parties in conflict learn about and consider the options available to them for the resolution of their dispute. When people work with one another to reach agreements that are mutually acceptable, relationships improve and peacemaking can begin.
Express individual interests and concerns.
Define the process and goals.
Research facts to consider.
Consider pros and cons of options presented.
Reach a mutually acceptable plan of action.
Relationships improve and peacemaking ensues.
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